It’s often been said–sometimes seriously, sometimes in playful jest–that you can’t choose your family. I’ve been blessed more than most, in that my brothers both married better than they deserve to wonderful ladies, and my in-laws are a very tight, playful, and loving bunch.
I do have a friend married to a manic-depressive and jealous man prone to fits of rage in which he delivers withering verbal assaults, and on at least one occasion, physical violence towards her.
Getting any more specific into their circumstances is irrelevant, but their relationship has deteriorated to the point that she is living with her parents with their kids, and may be contemplating taking the legal steps to end their relationship.
He owns an inexpensive pistol (a Cobra, maybe?) and has made statements that I interpret as threats of physical violence. We have very real concerns that if she does move forward with legal separation and divorce, that he will attempt to harm her and perhaps her children and her parents as well.
I’m now contemplating a conversation that I dread having.
They are wonderful people, but view guns as repulsive and possibly animate objects filled with evil. My friend is more open to the idea (especially because she wants to protect her kids), but has no experience or training.
I would like to try to convince all three of them to get some firearms training (NRA Home Firearm Safety, First Steps Pistol, Personal Defense in the Home) and keep a revolver in a small safe in their home “just in case.”
My sis-in-law would be the primary target of his rage, I’d like to encourage her to take the range’s concealed carry course, and Personal Protection Outside of the Home. in case he decides to confront her at work.
I’d be more than willing to pay for all of the training and associated hardware, from guns to safes to holsters and ammo.
But how do you broach the subject of training to use lethal force with retired adults that have associated guns with evil, violence, and crime for their entire lives? I’m hoping someone out there has an idea of the right way to have this conversation.